Are we allowed to mess up in life?

The truth is, many of us feel like we're not allowed to mess up. Think about it: every move we make seems like it has high stakes. If we mess up, what do we share on social media? What will our family think? We've made commitments, so there's no turning back now. We could lose time and effort. What if this path leads to failure? What if we make the wrong choice? These questions weigh heavily on our minds. 

In an environment where messing up isn't allowed, life becomes a series of high expectations, pressure to be perfect, and fear of consequences. Even the smallest mistake feels like it could derail everything. This pressure drives us to always have backup plans—not because they're inherently good, but because we don't trust ourselves enough to succeed without them. 

This blog isn't just another motivational piece about failure, and it's not about placing blame. We've all been conditioned in a world that punishes mistakes rather than celebrate learning from them. Most people I talk to are afraid of making wrong decisions because they believe it will negatively impact their lives, families, and future. "You will never meet a person, who have money at the same time as relationship at same time as family at same time as happiness. Nobody has got it all!" . The reality is that life is messy. It doesn’t follow a straight line, and it's filled with unexpected turns. 

Here's my advice: give up trying to be perfect. It's not going to happen, and that's okay. As Teal Swan said, "This life is meant to be a progression, not an exercise in perfection." When you give yourself permission to mess up, you open the door to creativity, growth, and authenticity.

Allow yourself to mess up a bit. Be kind to yourself, especially when it feels like everyone else is watching. It's easy to feel like you're the only one who doesn't have it all together, but that's never the case. Every single person you know has stumbled along the way. It’s just that we don’t always talk about it. 

Embrace the messiness. Letting go of the need for perfection means realizing that the only thing you truly have is this very moment. So allow yourself to pursue your desires and learn from every experience. If you make a mistake, you end up knowing more than you did before, because you took the time to reflect. The key is that you're making progress. Each step, even if imperfect, brings you closer to your true self and your genuine purpose. Years from now, you'll look back and see how far you've come—not because everything went perfectly, but because you allowed yourself to grow through the messiness..