Emotions: Our last natural connection

I believe emotions are the only truly natural thing we have left in a world where so much feels artificial. Our food is highly processed, our attention spans are shortened by endless scrolling, and genuine human connection is increasingly rare.

Yet, the world often teaches us to ignore or suppress our emotions. But when we disregard them, they tend to surface in other ways, often creating even bigger problems. Instead, we should learn to sit with our emotions, to understand and analyze them, rather than acting impulsively or dismissing them. A MIDDLE APPROACH —neither exploding in reaction nor numbing them away.

Many people ask me, "How do you get rid of the pain?" The truth is, you don’t. You allow yourself to understand it; you make it your wise friend so it teaches you lessons rather than becoming something to suppress. Pain is a necessary inconvenience.

Pain, I believe, is the greatest unseen gift from God—a puzzle that challenges both the heart and the mind. Like they say, imagine being bitten by a snake, and instead of focusing on healing yourself from the poison, you chase after the snake, trying to understand why it bit you or prove you didn’t deserve it. Every person you meet and every place you find yourself in carries a lesson meant for you. Otherwise, why would you be sent to that particular person or situation? A lesson, a reason, or a season, but never a loss. I see people getting angry or triggered and hurting those they were meant to learn from.

You can exercise, eat healthy, and take all the vitamins you want, but if you don’t address what's happening in your heart and mind, you’ll still going to be unhealthy. 

It takes a very strong person to sit with their feelings, calm their inner turmoil, and carefully analyze their circumstances without dragging others into their chaos or lashing out. The greatest journey anyone will undertake is the journey of self-discovery.

People often avoid having deep, difficult conversations to "keep the peace." But peace shouldn’t be the ultimate goal—love should. And when you truly love someone, you are willing to have those hard conversations in service of that love.